The Undeniably Fierce Crew: Three Strategies to Ensure You’re Surrounded by Boss Women Who are Committed to Your Success!
You attract who you are.
Unfortunately for some women, that concept is really hard to accept. It’s just so much easier to blame external circumstances for your not knowing “the right people,” “getting the right opportunities,” or “being overlooked altogether.”
Think about how many times you have heard women say, “you can’t trust women because they are jealous, conniving, have ulterior motives or are back-stabbing?”
Is that your reality?
While it is true that many of us have had negative experiences with other women in the past, it is virtually impossible for your experiences with other women to be consistently negative if you are coming from the “right place and space” internally.
Why? Relationships simply mirror who you are.
The reality is, you won’t attract a power posse of women dedicated to your advancement, growth and success by being someone who is jealous, selfish and always “trying to identify an alternative motive.”
Too often, women who aren’t surrounded by supportive women or who have never experienced the power of having “ride or die,” chicks on speed-dial, willing to walk through the fire for them, don’t “get it.” They don’t understand the significance of having someone who can remind them who they are, when they find themselves both personally and professionally in less than desirable circumstances or someone who actively seeks out opportunities to connect them with the right people and sing their praises to anyone who will listen.
The value is immeasurable to both your personal and professional advancement.
Remember last year when Madeline Albright was forced to apologize for her comment, “there is a special place in hell for women who don’t help each other?” Well, the context in which she made the statement may have offended some (admonishing women who didn’t support Hillary Clinton in her bid for President), the sentiment behind that statement couldn’t have been more “on point.”
Women must support other women. Truly, that is the only way we are going to continue to shatter the glass class ceiling. But, beyond reaching the corner offices of corporate, non-profit and government, there is an even more profound reason. Having the right women in your corner, can absolutely cut down on the time it takes for you to step into your Fiercest Self—you’re no longer flying solo without a parachute.
An Undeniable Fierce Crew will:
- Hold you accountable
- Support you
- Challenge you
- Cheer for you
- Cry with you
- Expand your vision and perspective
- Admonish you when necessary
- Help you elevate your requirements
If you already have your power posse in place, congratulations! Leverage them, support them, love up on them and count yourself blessed because with the right people in your corner, you are Unstoppable.
Just ask, Oprah.
However, if you don’t. You are in the right place because I am about to share three things you can do right now to turn that situation around.
1. Elevate Your Mindset: Do you fundamentally believe people are good, or that you need to “watch your back,” because someone is always out to “get you?” Are you someone who finds herself constantly saying, “just my luck,” whenever something unexpected happens? If so, I want you to pause right now. Take a deep breath and consider another perspective. You will never attract positive, creative, motivational, inspirational, supportive, savvy, fierce women into your life, if you aren’t one yourself. Why would they want to be with you? I know, I wouldn’t. So, it’s time to pivot and change that right now. First, think about how much you have to be grateful for? Keep a gratitude journal so you begin to see the world through a different lens. Next, remember how dope you are: List your top 10 life achievements (it can be anything) so you can start to embrace your self-worth. Finally, ask yourself, why would people be better off with your life? Write it down and remember it the next time you meet or reconnect with someone.
2. Be of Service: From this day forward, focus your attention on how can you serve others? Remember, the sooner you realize that it isn’t always about you, the better. Ask yourself, what have I done today to help advance someone else without waiting for acknowledgment or praise? When was the last time you did something for someone else without them asking? Maybe you noticed that someone you know was struggling to identify a babysitter and you could send them three people to consider in less than five minutes to help alleviate their stress. John Maxwell once said that the first question he asks himself in the morning is, “who am I going to serve today?” The last question he asks himself at night,” is who have I served? The quickest way you will build a rock solid and loyal crew is to be a rock solid and loyal person. Start today.
3. Be Intentional: A few years ago, I was approached by someone I had admired from afar. She asked to have lunch. When we connected, she mentioned that she knew quite a few Undeniably Fierce women, however, she wanted to set up a “mastermind group,” and asked me to facilitate. She wanted to provide a space for Boss women to share, hold one another accountable and work on their goals. That woman was Audrey Johnson, Senior Program Manager at Kaiser Permanente with Supplier Diversity (seated above in pink and blue) and CEO of AudreyLynnJo, LLC. The group met monthly for six months. Originally there was supposed to be over six participants, however, it dwindled down to three who were 100% committed. Natalie Brown, a human capital consultant and owner of Natalie Brown Consulting Group, LLC and Sheryl Ellison Ponds, who works in commercial real estate and economic development. They met consistently. They shared their goals, ambitions, and the things that were derailing them. They cheered each other. Connected one another and provided a “soft place to land.” I worked with them for six months in an official capacity. However, they have remained together and I had the honor to be invited to return to work with them last month. Together this crew has traveled to Hawaii (two years ago). Palm Springs the next. During the past three years, the three of them have had a myriad of personal and professional successes along the way, proving how beneficial it is to have the right women in your corner.
Who do you have in your corner helping you advance your goals, ideas and agenda? If you haven’t yet assembled your Power Posse, check out details about how to get started on the blog:
Jennifer Ransaw Smith, a Personal Elevation Strategist™, is the owner of Brand id| Strategic Partners. She equips women professionals, executives and entrepreneurs with the tools they need to elevate their visibility, credibility, influence and impact. Clients hire her when they are ready to “make a name for themselves,” in their organization and industry. She can be reached at Jennifer@Brandidsp.com or www.PersonalElevation.com